Our memory is not a fixed file nor a static photo album. It is a living software that updates constantly according to our level of development and awareness.

The memories we hold shape our beliefs, our identity, and the narrative we tell ourselves about who we are. Some are vivid and sharp, others vague and full of gaps. Many of them were recorded during childhood, when our perception was far more intense and we still lacked the emotional and cognitive tools to process them completely.

That is why, without realizing it, we can continue interpreting important events in adult life with childish codes: incomplete, exaggerated, or even traumatic meanings that no longer serve us.

Here is the key: the memory transforms according to your own development.

When we begin a conscious process of reflection and personal growth, we start “updating the software.” We review the old codes, reinterpret past events, and give them new meanings. What once seemed like “the end of the world” can become a simple formative anecdote. What used to generate shame or fear can transform into understanding and gratitude.

This process is like opening the windows of a dark house: as more light enters, we see with greater clarity. The memory is not erased, but it does transform. What changes is not the event itself, but the light with which we look at it.

We are multidimensional beings living a human experience. Although we are limited by a body and linear time, we have access to a broader reality where past, present, and future coexist in an eternal present. From that perspective, we can consciously “travel” to our memories and rewrite their impact.

Part of this work consists of connecting with more evolved versions of ourselves — those that already possess the qualities we now long for — and “downloading” that information into our present. Intuition, sudden insights, and moments of deep clarity are usually the channels for that download.

This conscious modeling of memory is essential if we want to manifest our most complete version here on earth. It is not only about healing the past, but about freeing ourselves to create a different future.

Real Experiences from Private Lessons

A few years ago I worked with a boy who perceived feedback from his parents and from me as a coach as overwhelming pressure. I used the metaphor of the young tree: the sticks tied to the trunk so it grows straight toward the light. At one point during the session, after talking about this, he stopped the ball before shooting at the goal and asked me: “What happens if the rope breaks?” I replied that this would be the best possible sign — it would mean the tree had grown strong enough and no longer needed external help to stay on the right path.

Another student used to have a very harsh and demanding internal dialogue every time he failed. We worked on the idea that every process takes its time and that error is a friend, not an enemy. Little by little he changed his internal dialogue. Today, the memories of his failures no longer torment him: they have become concrete guides for continuous improvement.

*Once the teaching “crystallizes” within us, external help will no longer be necessary to continue our “path of ascent toward the light.”*

The Connection with Football

In football this is especially powerful. Many players carry painful memories from past matches: a missed penalty, a goal conceded due to an error, or a poor performance. Thanks to current technology we can go back to those moments, see them from another perspective, and reinterpret them. We often discover that what we felt in the heat of the match does not match what actually happened. That new reading transforms the memory and turns “failure” into fuel for the next game.

Many of these memories are also stored in our fascia. I experienced this firsthand during a mentoring session on fascial release. While applying deep pressure on my iliotibial band and relaxing to handle the pain, vivid memories from football matches began to surface: moments when my internal dialogue was destructive, rejections from clubs, and the pain I felt at the time. I saw myself as an external spectator. I also relived moments when my ego had taken complete control and I believed I was the best in the world, even though deep down I knew it was all smoke. Automatically I laughed and asked myself (in my mind, while deeply releasing tension in my legs): “Where were you going with that attitude?” Another part of me immediately answered: “I was coming here.” When I opened my eyes I felt a profound reconciliation with my past and absolute clarity: “There are no design errors in the universe.” Everything had to happen exactly as it did for me to be where I am today.

*Performing myofascial release on the iliotibial band of my right leg.*

Practical Part: How to Update Your Memory

One of the most effective tools I use daily is journaling. Writing on paper (or in the “Journal” app on my phone with attached photos) everything that is spinning in my mind allows me to download information, close open windows, and release mental energy. Since I have been practicing it consistently, the quality of my sleep and my attention span have improved dramatically.

In addition, during free practice with the ball I use powerful visualizations. I imagine that I am not in just any park, but in a stadium full of people cheering. This exercise of imagination helps me change the emotional context of the present moment and train the memory in a deeper and more positive way. I often use this practice while filming my videos.

Closing

As adults, parents, and educators, we carry an enormous responsibility. The impressions we leave on children and young people will outlive us. True immortality is not found in monuments, but in how our teachings and our way of being are “carried” by future generations, just as we today carry what we learned from those who are no longer physically with us.

The memory transforms according to your own development.

And you have the power — and the responsibility — to decide which version of that memory you want to carry with you… and which version you want to transmit.

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